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“The Child is Father of the Man: Tips & Techniques for Wise Parenting”

by:

Ignatius Fernandez

Goodreads / Amazon

Abbreviated Blurb as per Goodreads:

The Child is Father of the Man: Tips and Techniques for Wise Parenting Did the world suddenly change the day you became a parent? Since then have you wondered how best you will care for your baby who grows into your toddler and then into a young child? Is the prospect of raising a stable, happy and responsible child merely wishful thinking? You are not alone in this quandary. Welcome to the club of puzzled parents – with the largest membership in the world! To most parents raising children as best they can, falls far short of unspoken expectations. This book, which is a storehouse of practical ideas, can help bridge the gap. LEAD PARENTING is the prescription. Using the collective insight that he and his wife gained over decades of raising four children, the author offers a thought-provoking, relevant and actionable guide to parenting. His suggestions to change and grow as a parent are practical and specific.

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Genre: Nonfiction, self-help, parenting

Note: This title was provided by the author in exchange for an honest review.

Hello and thank you for visiting The Review Board.

Today Mini Truth gives us an inside look at Ignatius Fernandez’s Self-help book “The Child is Father of the Man: Tips & Techniques for Wise Parenting”.

Mini Truth

When I picked up this book the very first thing that stood out like a sore thumb was the title. That alone provoked thought. I couldn’t really get past the oddity of it as it didn’t quite much sense to me. Nevertheless, I went on and proceeded to read it as was requested of me.

Allow me to start with the premise.

In a nutshell, this book is more focused on teaching parents how to be proper leaders of the household in order to provide a greater example to their children, and in turn make them better kids. That’s basically it.

It isn’t one of those self-help parenting books that teaches you how to “fix” your kids, but instead how to be a superior model to your kids and lead by example. It also implements religious aspects as it is Christian based.

To tell you the truth, when I started reading it, throughout the prologue and first chapter I was under the impression that it was going to be a preachy, finger-pointing, “what not to do or you’ll go to hell” type of book. I am pleased to announce that it isn’t so much. There are tiny bits here and there that sort of point in that direction, but it isn’t overbearing or annoying.

I do have some more in-depth thoughts about this book, but before I get into that I suppose I should start with a few overall thoughts. As a single parent, I found that this books doesn’t necessarily serve as an effective guide to single parenting. It is more so directed to two parent homes than single parent homes.

I can definitely say that there are some great anecdotes. One in particular was very touching to me and it was in the chapter directed towards mothers’. It spoke of a mother whom literally gave her eye for her son. Very touching.

There were similar tales like that throughout.

There were also some great “pointers” as far as how to shift your mentality when dealing with your kids and how to support with love as opposed to an iron fist and things of that sort. All very good things.

All of that being said, now I’ll get into my pros and cons.

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Pros:

  • The book was replete with useful information, and/or lessons.
  • While in some intervals it was a bit preachy, it wasn’t excessively dogmatic.
  • Some exercises where given that were interactive and interesting.
  • The author seemed to keep the read lighthearted.
  • The intermittent parables/stories were nice.

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Unfortunately, the cons outweighed the pros, which is a true shame.

  • I couldn’t say for certain, however, it seems as though English is this author’s second language. Allow to explain how I came to this conclusion.

Page after page I found that the writing in and of itself was inundated with big words, yet the grammar, sentence structure and punctuation was horrible. I couldn’t understand why, and the only thing that seemed to make sense was that it must be a translated book. I know this from having used Google Translate in the past. Sometimes it will give you the proper verbiage but not the proper sentence structure of grammatical approach. I’m not saying the Google Translate was utilized, but you get the idea.

Here are some examples:

  1. At times the author breaks up the narrative and inserts “memories” by utilizing random brackets.
  2. Erroneous punctuation is used consistently.
  3. Sentence structure is awkward. Sometimes they are too long, at other times, they are incomplete and other times, the verbiage is cumbersome.
  • In the chapter of the Mother (the one I mentioned above) there was an underlined implication that the women should be “submissive” to her husband and be the good, subjugated female. While this isn’t said outright, if one were to read between the lines, that is the impression that is given.
  • Many times I couldn’t help but feel as though I was being told that I wasn’t a good enough parent because I’m a single mom. Once again, this also was not said outright, but as it did not address single parent homes it had a sort of marked connotation that parents such as myself aren’t good enough.
  • Also, the fact that it is reiterated throughout the book that the author was called by God, and he has grown children, and he knows best, so on and so forth tended to be annoying. The sign of the best preacher is humility. Unfortunately, this preacher in particular was neither humble nor meek.
  • As far as a universally understood and accepted book, this isn’t it. A non-believer and/or skeptic, or even a person from another religion could not connect with this book.

To sum up my review, I will have to say that while it has the potential of being a useful tool SOLELY for those of the Christian faith, as it stands, it needs lots of work to bring it up to par. Now, if you are an atheist, an agnostic, or of another religion, this book would not be beneficial to you as there is the possibility that you might walk away offended.

My score? 5 TRB Stars.

5stars

It was a nice idea, but the execution was lackluster.

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I have an appreciation for the unique, love for all types of art, and fierce attractions to brilliant intellectuals (from book smarts to street smarts). Lover of humanity but feel humans have lost their way, just trying to stay true to myself as conformity threatens to take me away. Simply one head, many crowns: Author. Reviewer. Columnist.

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